Determined Moms

Mothers Day 2018
A Tine’s Captured Moments collage of amazing moms

If I had a nickel for every time I heard someone say “You’re such a good mom!” or “How’d you do it on your own?”, I’d have a nice-sized bank account.  But sometimes I don’t believe it.  It sure wasn’t all rainbows and unicorns when my son was growing up.  In fact, it was downright arduous.  There were a lot of challenges and it made for some very difficult times.  But he was my one and only child whom I loved unconditionally.  My baby boy.  As his mom, I was going to do anything and everything to ensure that he had a successful but more importantly joyful childhood.

In preschool my boy had some of the most loving and caring teachers, yet he still struggled with behaviors.  He couldn’t focus in class or stay on task, he was extremely hyper, and was very impulsive.  All combined, these made a nasty cocktail for a bad day and ultimately being labeled a “discipline problem”.

But he wasn’t like that at home… at least, that’s what I thought.  There was no “Google” back then so I asked the experts (doctors, specialists, schools, etc.) a LOT of questions and finally had him tested.  By the time he was ready for Kindergarten he’d been given an autism diagnosis.  FINALLY, I thought, he’ll get the support services he needs.

But the challenges continued.  Not every school year was bad, and neither was every teacher.  He had some amazing and truly supportive educators who wanted to see him succeed no matter how much time it took to explain a concept or task to him.  While I tried my hardest to be positive, it was my job as a mom to be ever-vigilant, issue constant oversight and be my son’s best advocate.  (And a little “Jersey” attitude didn’t hurt.)  Yes, there were a LOT of challenges and sleepless nights.  I worried all the time and argued with his caregivers too much.  I pushed him endlessly and sheltered him to a  fault.  But that’s what moms do.

My “baby boy” is now 22 years old and he’s an amazing, talented, kind and hilarious young man.  I have NO IDEA where the time went, honestly.  Before I could blink he’d graduated high school, gotten a job and was driving to the store to get his own groceries.

Recently I went through some photographs of us when he was a preschooler.  Those years were by far the most difficult for us both.  And yet, EVERY picture I have is of us smiling, having fun or going on an adventure, so the emotion those images evokes is simply JOY.  I’m so lucky to have those photographs… but some families aren’t as lucky.

Parents of children who are diagnosed with a disability or challenging behavior aren’t likely to book an appointment for their kids at Sears.  It’s so difficult for little ones to navigate the crowds at the mall or deal with the blinding flashes and saying “Cheese!”?!  I started my portrait photography business with the disability community in mind.  My specialty is photographing children and families of ALL abilities.  I have the know-how, the patience and the knack for capturing special moments.  And, like a mom I also have fierce determination.  I want families to have memorable photographs that they can look back on with joy.

Whenever I have a mom and her child alone in front of my camera, my heart fills with a special emotion.  I know first hand what that relationship is all about.  I know how hard that woman fights for her child, how much sleep she’s lost worrying and how much JOY her child brings her.  It’s all I can do to squeeze the shutter.

Here’s to you, moms–because EVERYTHING you do IS the best.

Drew and his amazing mom, Debra

Stopping the Clock

DSC_7882Why do we love photographs, especially of a personal nature?  In a word — Emotion!  Visual images evoke a visceral response.  A good example of that would be anytime you open the Premium Panoramic Photo Book I personally crafted for you which holds photographs… for instance those precious memories of your then newborn baby, just 10 days old, so cute and cuddly… and in an instant those images transport you to a joyous and treasured moment in your life!

I feel so very fortunate when a client chooses me to photograph their family.  It’s an honor I take very seriously and hold in the highest regard.  My time spent on the project — collaborating, planning, scouting, shooting, capturing the family dynamic, editing, selecting and delivering the finished products — can be a bit overwhelming, but every minute spent is well worth those efforts.  And that’s just a small part of the awesome responsibility I have as a portrait photographer.

The image above, taken several years ago, is of a loving family who’s youngest child attended the preschool where I was Director.  It was a difficult session as two of the three children have an autism diagnosis, so looking towards the camera was optional to them.  It was grossly hot and humid outside and after a long day at school everyone was feeling hangry and tired.  Yet, I managed to capture the perfect moment.  Under such trying conditions, I made them laugh!  The result was a beautiful image and, in the end, a beautiful day.

A week later this family was in a horrific car accident!  Their mini van rolled several times ejecting the middle child from the vehicle.  All but the little one were bumped and bruised and suffered lacerations, some requiring stitches.  The oldest girl suffered the worst, a serious back injury requiring a brace and several months of painful physical therapy.

Today, I’m thrilled to report, they are all healthy and happy; but when I first heard the news of the accident I was in the process of editing their images.  It became one of the most difficult post-production jobs I’ve ever done, realizing that the outcome from the crash could’ve been far worse.  It was then that I truly understood the magnitude and obligation I have to my clients to clearly and accurately capture that glorious moment in time when they are expressing their distinct personalities in front of my camera.

A client of mine whose mother-in-law recently passed away, asked me for a portrait I had taken of her that could be displayed at the funeral service.  I gladly complied.  Attending the service, family and friends remarked that I had “captured her soul”, the essence of her personality in the photograph, a beautiful and emotional reminder of a happier time.

During every portrait session I shoot, looking through the lens and snapping the shutter, I consider the emotion that exact moment and consequent image will awaken in the viewer.  Will that particular image move my client?  Will that image tell a story?  Am I capturing my subject’s true spirit and “soul”?  I consider it my obligation to do so.

I explain to all of my clients that special moments in time are fleeting, but imagery has longevity.  With photographs I can stop the clock and freeze time by creating and documenting specific moments in their lives with portraits that will last forever.


Selling Your Brand with the Right Images

An image I captured of the bright, colorful and inviting indoor bar at “Parallel Wine & Whiskey Bar

It’s time to renovate your kitchen!  It’s going to cost you a small fortune so you want to make sure you have the right person for the job.  You go online and find “Joe Schmo’s Fabulous Kitchen Renos”.  When you dig deeper into his website you see some really great pictures of Joe who has a very nice smile and seems to be friendly and trustworthy.  You also see pictures of the building in which his business is located, Joe shaking hands with a customer and even a closeup shot of Joe holding a hammer and standing in what looks like a kitchen … and there’s that friendly smile once again!

Are you going to choose Joe for the job based on these images?  I certainly hope not!  You’ll want to see images of the kitchen renovations he’s done!

Say you own a hair salon.  What should be hanging on your walls?  Gorgeous paintings of the rolling hills in Italy?  Or beautifully matted and framed prints of your loyal clients who had their hair cut and styled by your very own hairdressers?!

If you’re a business owner, whether it’s a hair salon, tattoo parlor, gym, or wine and whiskey bar, you need images on your website that distinguish your brand from any other, showcases your work, and/or highlights your product.  I help my business website clients attract potential patrons to their business with striking images that evoke the ideals that they want associated with their brand.

Just got engaged?  Want to send out announcements to family and friends?  If you’re the type of person who enjoys city life, we won’t be photographing your session in the woods!  I scout out the perfect urban location as a backdrop, I help with wardrobe selections and I guide the happy couple with fun poses that together expose their true style and personalty (ie: “brand”!).  This type of “branding” will help cultivate excitement and give family and friends a joyful and emotional attachment for the big event!

Whatever your style, whatever your brand, whatever you’re selling or announcing, dynamic images should tell a story, awaken ideas, provide description and leave an inviting and lasting impression.

And yes… If Joe Schmo was actually a realtor, you would want to see his really nice smile on his business card because that smile tells you he could sell an igloo to an eskimo!

Here’s an image I captured two years ago that was recently published on Visit Loudoun’s blog featuring “Perfect Patios in Loudoun County“. Makes you want to sit on the patio and sip a Bloody Mary, eh?

It’s all in the Name

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“Nugget” and Wendy Stuart Kaplan, author of “She’s the Last Model Standing”, available on Amazon.

Why name my photography business “Tine’s Captured Moments”? Well for me, I think it does a fine job defining who I am and what I love to do.

Growing up, my baby brother had a tough time saying “Christine” and pronounced my name “Titine”. Family abbreviated it to Tine and that nickname came in handy when I was a Preschool Director and “Miss Christine” was a mouthful for the toddlers.  I’d been known as “Ms. Tine” for my 20 years in the education field, and “Tine” by my colleagues and close family.  But I’ll also answer to “Mom”, “Babe”, “Chris”, and whatever term of endearment my father chooses to call me on any given day.  So the name of my photography business came rather naturally since it included my name and my passion for capturing special moments for my clients.  (Getting people to pronounce Tine as “TEEN” is another story.  And take a look at my last name, yikes!)

Names in general are so very important.  A name is an identity and can explain a heritage, business, marital status, individuality, culture, and more.  The Chinese believe that a name greatly impacts one’s entire life.  Hindu families might use astrology to determine a newborn’s name and celebrate the occasion with elaborate and beautiful naming ceremonies.  I, on the other hand, named my son Kyle after the protagonist in the first Terminator movie.  Well… it sounded cool.

Infants seem to respond to their names before any other word because it’s a word or sound that they hear repeatedly.  However, by the time they’re 6 months old they’ve got more important things to do than look your way when you call their name.  So when photographing young children I use a variety of eye-catching sights and attention-grabbing sounds to capture their interest.

I have this cute little bunny rabbit stuffy that wraps around my lens cover and grabs a little one’s attention beautifully.  And squeaky toys aren’t just for our furry family pets.  The idea, however, is to have more than one squeaky or rattling sound, because both infants and pets will tire of that sound once they’ve figured out where it’s coming from.

Here’s a trick I use ALL the time when photographing family pets.  I learned this trick from my father who still to this day uses this technique when he comes upon strangers who are struggling to get the whole family and their pet in a selfie.  He offers to take the picture for them and asks one of them to whisper the family pet’s name in his ear.  When everyone is finished settling in for the photo and all human eyes are looking his way, my father calls “FIDO!” and POW!  There’s the shot with Fido’s ears up and eyes on the camera.  Be prepared though because that trick typically works only ONCE!  Then it’s time to get out the squeaky toys.

I’ll have more tips and tricks and tales like these to share as I continue my “Tine’s Tips & Tales” blog every other Tuesday!  Hey… ya know what?  I was just thinking… I’m glad my parents didn’t name me Michelle like they wanted to.  My blog title just wouldn’t have rolled off the tongue as well…

The joyous moment captured in this beautiful Hindi “baby naming ceremony”; when the father whispers the baby’s given name in her right ear.

No Exceptions

kyle aad2018This is my first blog.  Originally I was going to write about how my business came to be but I’ll save that for another day.  Besides, this blog seems more appropriate for such an exceptional day.

Today is kind of like any other day except today is “World Autism Awareness Day”. And this month is like any other month except April is “Autism Acceptance Month”. My son Kyle is like any other almost 22-year-old young man except he’s more tolerant and considerate of others, has a great sense of humor, he’s cute (yes, I’m a little biased), he’s exceptionally kind and gentle with animals, and as a young adult with autism is advocating today for autism ACCEPTANCE.  Way to go, buddy.

Above is a picture of Kyle at one of my shoots, standing in for my subjects so I can test lighting (he’s a fantastic assistant!).  You may not be able to see behind his transition sunglasses, but his eyes are closed. I asked Kyle why he often closes his eyes in pictures. He said, “Why do you need my eyes on the camera for every picture?” That “the camera is ok, but looking at it every time feels… unnatural. And closing my eyes is me in the moment.”  So I asked further, “Does closing your eyes make you feel unique?”  He replied, “I AM unique.”

That’s an EXCELLENT tip for ANYONE except even more so for one who should know… ME!  It’s tough for ME to be “myself” in front of the camera so I know how my clients must feel.  During a session I ensure my clients feel comfortable and encourage them to just be themselves.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE capturing my clients being spontaneous and in the moment.  And I’m good at it.  So it makes sense that a good amount of images from a session are NOT of my subjects looking at the camera.  ESPECIALLY children.  Of course I engage with all of my clients and make them laugh and that’s when they’re most at ease to look my way… in a natural way.  But know that if I do on occasion ASK for eyes towards me, I’ll NEVER ask anyone to say “CHEESE!”  Oh my goodness, NO!  Who says that unless they’re ordering cheese at a restaurant!?

However, traditional family portraits are a little different in that you do want to have everyone’s eyes towards the camera.  But even with the best of planning it’s inevitable that when I’m taking the portrait, EVERYONE in the photograph is looking at me… except Uncle Joe.  His eyes are somewhere else.  SQUIRREL!  But guess what?  That IS Uncle Joe!  That’s exactly his personality.  So every time the family looks at that gorgeous printed portrait on the wall, they’re going to smile wide when they look at Uncle Joe.

So remember… during your photo session with me, be yourself.  Look at the me and the camera or don’t.  Smile with your eyes, even if they’re closed.  And above all things, BE UNIQUE.  NO EXCEPTIONS.


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“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde